Respect Should Be Earned, Not Forced

By: Ajibode Kabir-Olawale

Respect as generally understood is an attitude of consideration or high regard.

Hence, on today’s reality, we’ll be discussing elaborately on the ways at which respect can be earned and not forced while relating with people around.

It is evident that in our society today people are bent on just behaving recklessly without thinking of how the next person to them is going to feel and in exchange for that they’ll still expect to be respected for such unruly behavior of theirs, but unknowingly to them a wise man said and I quote “respect is a two-way street, if you want to get it you’ve got to give it.”

However, in a bid to earn respect you don’t do things for people and expect to be rewarded in return, believe me, this world would be a better place if we are all equal, knowing the fact that we are different, we are all the same knowing the fact that we will never be the same if we can be united by the reality that all colors and all cultures are distinct and individual in their own way, we are harmonious in the reality that we are all held to this earth by the same gravity. We don’t share blood, but we share the air that keeps us alive, all these lies under the shade of the respect we have for ourselves collectively without being forced.

We meet ourselves today in a harsh society because of the lack of respect for one another, respect they say is reciprocal that is only if we can avoid our age, positions, colors, gender, tribe, cultural, and even spiritual differences.

For instance, one of the major ethics that makes a good leader different from a boss is that a  good leader respects his/her followers, followers can only respect their boss only to his or her face but in his/her absence they respect a respectful leader.

Today our world is becoming a place for rapists, racists and the rate of corruption is increasing every day by day, why are all these happening to our world? If you ask me I would say its lack of respect for one another because if the American white police officer that killed black George Floyd had respect for human life which am sure he cannot create, the black man wouldn’t have lost his life after he had managed to shout that “he can’t breathe” at the point of death.

Also, is the case of happenings in Nigeria where rapists are shortening the lives of our young ladies all for the satisfaction of just a few minutes, all these acts of illicitness all fall under the umbrella of not having respect for God’s creatures and if someone is living under the watch of the Almighty and still not respect his creatures, who then would such person respect?.

Conclusively, let’s remember respect is quite different from fear, for a man who thinks people must respect him for the fear he has instilled in them, trust me that is not respect, the real respected one is the one who fears the respect people have for him. If they respect you, respect them and if they disrespect you still respect them. Do not allow the actions of others to decrease your good manners because you are who you want to be and not who they want you to be.

Ajibode Abdulkabir Olawale writes from University of Ilorin

ajibodekabir@yahoo.com,.

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